Sarah Mikutel

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Am I an Enneagram 9 or Enneagram 5?

Enneagram 9s and 5s can look very similar on the outside. For example, they both withdraw when stressed and generally like a lot of alone time to recharge. 

But dig a little deeper and you’ll discover some major differences between their core motivations, fears, and desires. If you’re confused about whether you’re an Enneagram 9 or Enneagram 5, this article should clear things up for you. 

Knowing which type you are is essential if you want to discover your blind spots, break bad habits, and flourish in life.

Enneagram 9: The Peacemaker

Type 9s seek internal and external peace, stability, and comfort. They want to maintain a sense of inner harmony and avoid conflict. They have an others-focused orientation, meaning they often prioritize the needs of other people and are highly attuned to maintaining positive connections.


Key Traits

  • Go along with others to keep things pleasant

  • Struggle to express own needs and say no

  • Readily accommodate others’ perspectives

  • Withdraw, blend, or numb out to avoid confrontation


Enneagram 5: The Investigator / Observer

Type 5s seek peace and stability as well, but more through understanding and gaining knowledge about the world around them. They believe that by having enough knowledge, they can be competent and capable, which brings them a sense of stability.

Fives are driven by acquiring knowledge, understanding systems thoroughly, and protecting their inner world and energy. They have a self-focused orientation.

Key Traits

  • Highly analytical and idea-oriented

  • Avoid social interactions to maintain autonomy

  • Feel compelled to thoroughly master their interests

  • Use detachment as a means of self-protection


Core motivations

Enneagram 9: They are driven by a desire for internal and external peace, comfort, and harmony. 9s have an outward focus, often prioritizing the needs of others and preserving stability in relationships.


Enneagram 5: 5s are motivated by a thirst for knowledge, competence, and self-sufficiency. Their focus is inward. They value their independence over group dynamics and want to try to understand the world by mastering their interests. 


Communication style

Enneagram 9: 9s communicate in a way that prioritizes harmony and often avoid directness. They’re great at finding common ground and helping others be heard, though not everyone knows where they stand. They tend to go with the flow and hold back negative emotions to keep interactions smooth.

Enneagram 5: 5s are more likely to communicate in a straightforward, blunt manner. They value clarity and logic and aren’t afraid to challenge inconsistencies. They typically focus more on data and facts than conversation that builds rapport.


Conflict style

Enneagram 9: 9s avoid confrontation at all costs, until they start focusing on their personal development. They prefer to withdraw or blend in, often choosing to numb out rather than face the issue directly. Their main goal is to maintain peace, even if it means not addressing their own needs or feelings.

Enneagram 5: 5s are more likely to retreat and analyze the situation logically. They don’t necessarily avoid conflict but prefer to think through it by themselves. If they feel knowledgeable and prepared, they’ll stand firm in their beliefs, talking facts and figures rather than responding out of emotion. 


Discerning questions

Here are some questions to help you figure out if you lean more toward 9 or 5:

  • Is it harder for you to assert yourself and say what you want (Type 9), or to allow emotions and interact with the external world (Type 5)?

  • When conflict comes up, do you withdraw to feel internal peace and avoid confrontation (Type 9), or do you go off on your own so you can think it through logically (Type 5)?

  • In moments of disagreement, is your priority to restore calm and harmony and find common ground, even if it means putting your own opinions aside (Type 9), or to ensure that your perspective, based on facts and logical analysis, is understood, even if it creates more distance (Type 5)?

  • How do you react when your personal boundaries are challenged? Do you have a tendency to give in to maintain peace (Type 9), or do you enforce your boundaries firmly, emphasizing your need for independence and space (Type 5)?


Areas for growth

Enneagram 9: For Type 9s, growth often means learning to assert themselves. This includes expressing their own opinions and needs clearly, rather than always going along with what everyone else wants. It’s about recognizing that their voice and perspective are equally valuable and deserve attention.


Enneagram 5: Type 5s often believe they have limited energy reserves, and that they need to avoid social interactions or anything that might tax them emotionally. Growth for them involves challenging this false belief that they have less energy than others. It’s understanding that human interaction and emotion, while sometimes demanding, also recharges us and adds depth to life.


As they become more self-aware of their strengths and blind spots, both 9s and 5s will start actively and authentically engaging with the world around them more. 9s will become more engaged and participative, while 5s will become more connected and responsive.

Still curious about your Enneagram type? Book an Enneagram typing session and indulge in an hour of getting to know yourself better and what will move you forward.


 

One more thing

Both Enneagram types 9 and 5 tend to be on the quieter side, especially in groups. This has all sorts of consequences, including stunted career growth and misunderstandings in relationships. If you’re ready radically increase how confident you look and feel in conversations, let’s talk.

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